Psychologist James Dobson wrote a book entitled Parenting Isn\u2019t for Cowards. In that book, he explains how it\u2019s important, as a parent, to choose your battles wisely when dealing with your child\u2019s behavior or misbehavior. <\/p>\n
When a child is born into a family, the parents will want to discuss ideas about discipline and training their child. They\u2019ll want to decide upon which behaviors are absolutely forbidden and which ones will simply be tolerated. Each family will choose for themselves, but the following are commonly considered battle offenses among many families:<\/p>\n
* Lying is one thing not tolerated by many parents. In fact, parents want their children to learn to be honest in all areas of their lives. Honesty and trust go hand-in-hand; if your child can\u2019t be honest with you, it will erode your trust in them which will adversely affect your relationship with them.<\/p>\n
* Stealing is another no-no that most parents try to teach their children about. Not only does stealing, no matter how small the item, affect a child\u2019s relationship with the person they\u2019ve stolen from, it could begin a life-long bad habit with possible legal ramifications.<\/p>\n
* Hitting is also often not tolerated by most parents. Some will teach their child to not hit another in any circumstance, but others will teach their children to stand up for themselves if they have been punched or hit first. You\u2019ll want to decide which approach is best for your family.<\/p>\n
* Talking back often strikes a nerve with many parents, no matter how old the child is the first time it happens. Parents want their children to be respectful when talking to them. Talking back is not tolerated well; many parents will deal harshly with this activity.<\/p>\n
* Name calling is also not allowed in many families. Many children will call others names out of anger, so one way to confront the problem is to help the child deal with their feelings. If they can control their anger, the name calling may stop.<\/p>\n
Once you\u2019ve decided which behaviors are not going to be tolerated in your family, you\u2019ll want to discuss appropriate discipline for those behaviors. In this respect, whatever discipline is chosen, be consistent. Your child will learn quicker that you\u2019re serious about these behaviors if you consistently stop them, remind them that they\u2019re not tolerated in your home, and that they will be dealt with accordingly. Consistency with the important issues will help your child learn what is acceptable and what is not.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ll also want to discuss behaviors which aren\u2019t so important. Some of these might be dawdling, not cleaning their room, dying their hair outrageous colors, or getting their nose pierced. These may be actions which you\u2019re not happy about, but they may simply be your child\u2019s way of expressing themselves. <\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to make every misstep or misbehavior the starting point for a battle. Choose your battles wisely; save the battles for the things which will have the most impact on their future if allowed to continue. Remember, you can learn not to sweat the small stuff but let it pass and then you\u2019ll be ready when a real battle must be fought and won.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Psychologist James Dobson wrote a book entitled Parenting Isn\u2019t for Cowards. In that book, he explains how it\u2019s important, as a parent, to choose your […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rop_custom_images_group":[],"rop_custom_messages_group":[],"rop_publish_now":"initial","rop_publish_now_accounts":[],"rop_publish_now_history":[],"rop_publish_now_status":"pending","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-886","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articles"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/886","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=886"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/886\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=886"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=886"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentingzoo.com\/members\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=886"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}