\u00a9Lisa Barker<\/p>\n
I love being a stay at home mom. I can go to the bathroom whenever I want, I can drink water whenever I want and I never have to say \u2018excuse me\u2019 unless the children hear.<\/p>\n
I haven\u2019t let myself go. I just don\u2019t have to answer to anyone and that\u2019s a definite drawback especially when you return to the workforce.<\/p>\n
Once I held an office job after having spent the previous five years alone with three little ones. I hadn\u2019t realized how I\u2019d morphed from a shy person to one who speaks her mind until I was hired as an administrative assistant.<\/p>\n
My boss said, \u201cLet\u2019s do a little less talking and a little more work.\u201d<\/p>\n
I blurted out, \u201cI can talk and work just fine.\u201d Then realized what I\u2019d said and recovered with, \u201cBut you\u2019re the boss and what you say goes. Yes, sir!\u201d It\u2019s not easy being the boss at home and not being one at work.<\/p>\n
The hardest thing about having kids and working outside the home is not having enough time to care for the house and my family the way I want to. I want to be there and be in charge. My hat is off to those women who are able to stay home, but choose to work outside the home. They do it all, but I can\u2019t.<\/p>\n
While I\u2019m stuck at a desk hiding files of work I have done for the rest of the week (to slowly dole out to a boss that will hyperventilate if he sees me more than five minutes ahead of him with my work) I\u2019m thinking of all the things I could be doing at home that are piling up while I pretend I\u2019m working.<\/p>\n
Laundry is multiplying by the nanosecond. Dishes are breeding in the sink and on the counters. Toothpaste is oozing down the bathroom cabinet. Dust bunnies are plotting a siege. Weeds are securing the perimeter of the garden and are poised for an all out war.<\/p>\n
Worst of all I\u2019m not there for my kids\u2019 firsts or when they\u2019re sick or when they need me around just so they can ignore me. It\u2019s my job to be there and say, \u201cI told you so,\u201d or \u201cBecause I said so,\u201d or \u201cDon\u2019t touch it, that\u2019s gross!\u201d<\/p>\n
And then after adding it all up, I discovered that my entire job paid only for my work expenses (clothes and gas) and daycare for the children. In other words, I was working to afford to work. Does that make sense to you?<\/p>\n
I\u2019d rather be home where the kids can take me for granted in person. I\u2019m there for them, they get the best care in the world (me) and it doesn\u2019t cost me a dime, just my sanity.<\/p>\n
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\nJelly Mom\u2122 is written by Lisa Barker, author of “Just Because Your Kids Drive You Insane…Doesn’t Mean You Are A Bad Parent!” and syndicated through Martin-Ola Press\/Parent To Parent. To publish Jelly Mom, buy the book or leave comments, please visit http:\/\/www.jellymom.com.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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